When You Don’t Have a Church Home {Why Bother With Church}

I grew up in the church, and I never once questioned the benefits of attending. In my mind, it was simply something Christians were supposed to do. We worship together, give offerings, hear a sermon, and recharge for the week ahead. I always loved church. Perhaps it was my time spent on the worship team or the fact that I’ve always loved to study and learn. Regardless, I looked forward to Sunday mornings.


About four years ago, my husband experienced a major disappointment at our church home. He was a major part of the worship team, words were said, feelings were hurt, and it felt as if things were crumbling beneath us. The church itself crumbled as well. Nearly every person we knew left to attend elsewhere. It was a mess.

Deeply wounded, my husband asked if we could take a break. He was extremely burned out and wondered if and how he would ever feel “at home” again in a church.


My family spent the next 3-4 years without a church to call home. We visited a few churches here and there, but nothing seemed to “fit.”

I prayed for connection, and God answered my prayers.


The main purpose of having a church home is connection. Without it, we are missing out on a vital part of being the body of Christ.


Today, I am honored to be guest writing over at Kelli LaFram’s place! Be sure to click here to read the remainder of today’s post and to check out some other amazing pieces in Kelli’s series #whybotherwithchurch.


Together, we are his house, built on the foundation of the apostles and the prophets. And the cornerstone is Christ Jesus himself. We are carefully joined together in him, becoming a holy temple for the Lord. – Ephesians 2:20-21 (NLT)


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6 Replies to “When You Don’t Have a Church Home {Why Bother With Church}”

  1. Hey Alyssa, I’m stopping by from the Coffee for your Heart linkup, and I gotta tell ya, this post was needed. I’m not comfortable going into details online where all my words could be read by anybody, but I appreciate you putting this out there for others with injured hearts. God bless!

  2. Alyssa,

    Thank you for sharing this story and for reminding us of the power in connecting with other believers. It was a gift to my heart today as the Lord revealed a prayer focus for me while reading your story.

  3. Hi Alyssa! Connecting from #DanceWithJesus Linkup. I’m glad you didn’t just take decisions lightly or by yourself on this church matter. I’ve seen that it is only when we are guided that we can be where we are fully blessed and we too are able to bless others. Thanks for sharing.

  4. It’s so good to read other people writing about their experiences with church! I’ve just started a series on church because we spent years in the church and then years away from the church….but not away from God. He’s showing me the way back one day at a time!

  5. Churches do fall apart. I am sure this happens far too often than God ever intended. I am sure it breaks his heart to see His bride bloodied and bruised…from fighting with each other. A church family is so important to our spiritual walk…but a healthy church is difficult to find.
    Thanks for sharing your thoughts on Grace and Truth.
    I pray that your new church home will be a blessing to you as much as you are a blessing to them.

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