About a year and half ago, I wrote a post called “10 Life Lessons I’ve Learned From My Toddlers.” (You can read it here.) Since that time, my girls have grown. I no longer have two toddlers, rather I have two preschoolers. (My youngest is almost 3 and technically still a toddler, but she thinks she’s a preschooler!)
I love my little girls, and they teach me life lessons each and every day. Here are just some of the things I’ve reflected on recently:
1) We all want to feel heard and appreciated.
When my oldest daughter wants to share something with me, she says, “Mommy, I want to see your face!” In other words, I can’t just keep doing the dishes and listen; I have to actually be facing her and giving her my undivided attention. We all have the desire to be heard, and she has taught me the importance of taking the time to be a good listener.
2) Life is more enjoyable when you make time for fun.
My husband and I are very routine-oriented. (We have to-do lists and schedules!) But I’ve found that when I take the time to have a little fun with my girls, my “to-do” list items become more enjoyable and less stressful. They are happier for it as well.
3) Changing my mood has an effect on the mood of those around me.
When my daughters are less than happy, it’s really easy to blame them and wonder why they aren’t behaving or listening. The truth is, however, that my mood has a HUGE impact on theirs. Moods are contagious. When I’m having a good day; they’re having a good day. When I have a smile on my face; they have smiles on their faces.
4) We are all stronger than we think we are.
We are capable of so much more than we realize. I see this in my daughters every day when they accomplish something new that they thought they couldn’t do. But even in my own life, I see this as well. Having two little ones has taught me just how strong I can be.
5) Sometimes all we need is a change of scenery.
We just started homeschooling this past year. It’s very basic preschool… mostly play-doh and puzzles, but the girls love it! The best part, however, is that we have a designated school room. Something happens when we make the transition from upstairs to downstairs. When my girls are struggling through their morning, the change of scenery gives them focus and calms their moods. It changes my perspective as well.
6) The grass isn’t always greener on the other side.
This is a truth I was already well aware of, but it really rings true as I watch my girls interact with one another. Sharing is a learned trait that develops over time, and my girls are still in the very early stages of that process! I watch as my oldest gets jealous of a toy that her younger sister is playing with. But more often than not, once she has possession of that toy, she finds it’s not as wonderful as she imagined. It’s a tough lesson, but an important one to say the least.
7) Being a peacemaker is better than winning.
My youngest daughter has taught me so much about being a peacemaker. Her desire to keep peace with her older sister is so sincere and heartfelt. She will gladly give up a favorite toy if it means making her sister happy (most of the time!) As I watch them play together, I’ve learned that sometimes it’s better to let things go and keep the peace than to hold on to something just because we feel like it’s ours or that we deserve it.
8) The need to learn and grow isn’t limited to childhood.
My daughters are learning and growing every day. But as their mom, I’m learning and growing too. They have taught me so much more than I could have ever imagined!
Life lessons come in all shapes and sizes…
Sometimes it's better to let something go and keep the peace than to hold on to it just because we feel entitled to it.Click To Tweet